Rate what you're into, tap a choice again to clear it, and tick Giving and/or Receiving where direction matters. Then swap lists with someone and see where you match. Answer only the questions that interest you — skipping the rest is answering, and even a handful is plenty to compare. Tap any term for a plain-English definition.
R.B.D.S.M.A. — the negotiation before you play
R — Relationship. What relevant relationship(s) are you in? Any arrangements with current partners to consider?
B — Boundaries. Where do you draw the line? What's a No for you? How will you communicate boundaries and needs in a scene?
D — Desires. What do you want from this person and encounter? Turn-ons? What would you especially like to experience?
S — Sexual health. Any health concerns, recent STI testing, etc.
M — Meaning. What does this encounter mean? One-time thing, or looking to establish something further?
A — Aftercare. What do you need after? Want a check-in the next day? Clarity ahead of time creates safety, closeness & connection.
Your answers live only on this phone. They travel only when you show your QR to someone you choose — that shares your whole list, boundaries included, which is the point.
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